Hold Me Tight® Hold Me Just Right: Online Couples Intensive for Touch & Sexual Connection

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Desire changed. Touch feels complicated. One weekend to find your way back to each other's bodies.

Sex is often the first place couples feel the distance, and the hardest place to talk about. One partner reaches and feels rejected. The other pulls away and feels pressured. Touch starts to feel loaded, so you avoid it altogether. Before long, you're lonely in the most intimate part of your relationship.

This private weekend intensive is based on Hold Me Tight® Hold Me Just Right: The Dance of Touch and Sexual Connection in Intimate Relationships, a relationship education program from the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy. It's built on the Hold Me Tight® approach developed by Dr. Sue Johnson, and it's designed specifically for couples addressing sexual connection.

We meet online, so you can join from anywhere in the world.

Is this for you?

  • One of you wants sex more than the other, and it's become a source of tension

  • Desire changed in midlife, during perimenopause, or after years together

  • Touch feels like pressure instead of comfort

  • You struggle to talk about sex without it turning into a fight or a shutdown

  • Sex feels routine, rushed, or has quietly disappeared

  • You love each other and want to feel close physically again

What we'll work on together

This intensive looks at sex and touch through the lens of attachment: how feeling safe and connected shapes desire, and how the dance between you plays out in the bedroom. As a Certified Sex Therapist with somatic training, I also bring in what your bodies need to relax, open, and feel pleasure.

  • You'll see the pattern that plays out around sex and touch, and learn to recognize it as the problem instead of each other.

  • We'll explore the fears, hurts, and needs beneath rejection, pressure, and avoidance.

  • You'll practice sharing what you want, what you miss, and what feels hard, without blame or shame.

  • Touch without pressure You'll learn how to rebuild affection and touch that feel safe, so closeness doesn't have to lead anywhere to matter.

    We'll talk openly about how stress, sleep, aging, and hormonal shifts affect desire, and how to adapt together.

  • We'll talk openly about physical and sexual connection, how stress and changing bodies affect it, and how to bring closeness back without pressure.

  • You'll leave with a plan for protecting your sexual and emotional connection after the weekend.

What the weekend looks like

  • 8 hours total, split across Saturday and Sunday

  • Two 4-hour days with scheduled breaks so you have time to rest, reflect, and reset

  • Private to the two of you, not a group

  • Held live online by secure video

  • Times scheduled to fit your time zone

  • Conversation and education only; nothing physical happens during sessions

This may not be the right fit if

  • Either of you is in crisis or needs psychiatric or emergency care

  • There has been physical violence in the relationship

  • You need evaluations, documentation, or court letters

  • You're looking for a quick fix rather than focused work together

About Sarah

I'm Sarah Simpson, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Sex Therapist completing my PhD in Clinical Sexology. I'm trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy, the Gottman Method, and Somatic Experiencing. Nothing you share will shock me, and I love helping couples feel close again.

Important to know

This intensive is a relationship education and enhancement program, not psychotherapy or sex therapy. It's not a substitute for therapy or medical care from a licensed provider in your area.

Hold Me Tight® is a registered trademark of Dr. Sue Johnson. This program is offered using materials from the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT).

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