Therapy for midlife couples ready to stop the cycle and find each other again.
Emotionally Focused, body-aware, couples therapy for the season when your body, your history, and your relationship all collide.
What therapy looks like here
At Eros, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), an attachment-based, research-supported model for couples is the primarily used modally. Somatic Experiencing training to work with the body, Gottman Method tools to steady high conflict, and sex therapy when intimacy needs care are all also incorporated.
In session, we slow everything down. We notice what happens between you, and what happens inside each of you, the moment it happens. Over time, the cycle that used to take over becomes something you can see, name, and step out of together.
My approach is:
Who I work with
Couples who feel like roommates. You're kind and busy, and you're lonely together.
Couples caught in midlife conflict. Rage, tears, or icy silence show up faster than either of you can stop them.
Couples where one or both partners carry attachment trauma. Midlife exhaustion has reopened old fears of abandonment or not being enough.
Couples whose intimacy has changed. Pain, low desire, or a body that feels unfamiliar has left closeness frozen or fraught.
Women facing the changes in her body through perimenopause. When your body changes and you’re not sure why you feel the way you do.
This may not be the right fit if
There is current physical violence, threats, or coercive control in the relationship.
Either partner needs emergency or crisis care.
Either partner is in active, unmanaged addiction or acute psychiatric crisis.
You're looking for medical treatment of hormonal symptoms. (I'm glad to refer you to medical partners and work alongside them.)
You need custody evaluations, court letters, or other forensic services.
You'll be outside Arizona or Missouri during ongoing online sessions. (Couples from any state can travel to Show Low for an intensive.)
If any of these apply, I'm happy to suggest providers who can help.
How couples therapy is structured
Free ten minute call to see whether we're a good fit.
First session together to understand what brought you here and begin mapping your cycle.
One individual session with each partner to understand your attachment history, health picture, and anything that's hard to say in the room. [Confirm your assessment format.]
Ongoing sessions together, with occasional individual sessions when they help the couples work.
Services and rates
Insurance: I'm an out-of-network provider and can provide a superbill. Reimbursement isn't guaranteed.
Cancellations: 48 hours' notice is required to cancel or reschedule. Late cancellations, including rescheduling, and missed sessions are billed at the full fee.
Good Faith Estimate: You'll receive one before we begin, as required by the No Surprises Act.
Online and in-person sessions and in-person intensives
Ongoing sessions take place by secure video for clients physically located in Arizona or Missouri at the time of each session. In person sessions are available in Show Lo, Arizona at: 541 N. Clark, Show Low, Arizona, by appointment only.
Frequently asked questions
Ready to begin?
The first step is a free ten minute call. You can ask anything, and we'll see whether this feels right for both of you.
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Attachment-focused: we look beneath the conflict to the old fears and the real need for closeness.
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Body-aware: we respect that midlife bodies are under strain, and we pause when either of you is overwhelmed.
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Paced: we work in small, tolerable steps rather than reliving painful memories in full.
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Collaborative with your care team: with your permission, I coordinate with your physician, pelvic floor therapist, or individual therapist.
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Affirming: I welcome partners of every gender, identity, and relationship structure, including polyamorous and open relationships.
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Calming conflict cycles, healing attachment wounds, rebuilding closeness
Online or in person, 60 minutes, weekly or every other week
$185/session
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Adapting to midlife body changes and rebuilding physical closeness
Integrated into couples sessions
Online or in person, 60 minutes, weekly or every other week
$185/session
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Individual sessions
Supporting one person
Online or in person, 50 minutes, weekly or biweekly
$175/seeion
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It can. Many people find that hormonal shifts, poor sleep, and physical symptoms lower their stress tolerance and make emotions harder to manage. That strain lands on the relationship. Naming it often brings real relief for both partners.
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Rage often shows up when your nervous system is depleted and old hurts are close to the surface. It doesn't make you a bad partner. In therapy, we work with what the rage is protecting, and help your body find steadier ground.
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Attachment trauma comes from early relationships where closeness didn't feel reliably safe. For years, you may have coped well. Midlife exhaustion can wear down those defenses, so old fears of abandonment or not being enough feel urgent again.
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Often, yes. Distance usually grows when reaching out has felt risky for a long time. We work to make reaching for each other feel safe again, emotionally and physically.
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Freezing is a nervous system response, not a choice. When a conversation feels threatening, your body may shut down to protect you. In our work, we help your body learn it's safe to stay.
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Yes. I'll encourage a medical evaluation for any pain, and I'm glad to work alongside your OBGYN or pelvic floor therapist. Together we help you let go of pressure and find closeness that fits the body you have now.
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No. I'm a therapist, not a medical provider. I help with the emotional and relational impact, and I collaborate with physicians and menopause specialists who treat the physical side.
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No. Midlife changes affect people of every gender. I work with any couple whose bond feels shaken by this season, including LGBTQ+ couples and polyamorous partners.
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No. We work with what shows up in your body and your relationship now, in small doses. The goal is to feel safer together, not to retell every painful memory.
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It varies. Many couples notice shifts within the first few months, and deeper change often takes 6–12 months.
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Online throughout Arizona and Missouri, and in person in Show Low, Arizona.